A person very close to me was involved in a head-on collision as a young man. Riding a motorcycle late at night he was struck by a drunk driver who pulled out of his lane to pass a car. It was so sudden; the young man barely had time to react but managed to avoid a dead-on impact and was struck only by the fender and mirror of the car. His motorcycle was destroyed and he spent four months in hospital. After recuperating and while driving a car with friends they noted that when a car approached from the opposite lane he always unconsciously steered the car as far as he could go toward right shoulder of the lane. His friends responded with a lot of good-natured kidding that involved re-telling of the incident and a kind of re-experiencing the event. There was a lot of laughter and a deep sigh of relief from the young man. He was able to release the automatic bodily response and went on to drive normally. This is what Peter Levine, PhD psychologist author of “In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness” refers to as “somatic experiencing”.
Drifting a little to the right on the highway may not constitute a major psychological trauma response, but what about PTSD or a serious physical attack or mental abuse that leaves the sufferer incapacitated? How is a person helped to recover from such an emotional burden? That is the domain of the psychological work of Somatic Experiencing. The practitioner of Somatic Experiencing Therapy undergoes years of training and is required to bring a special depth of empathy to work with people suffering from trauma who may not even know or remember the precipitating events of their psychological and somatic stress condition. It is the job of the therapist to help the person work through the sometimes convoluted wilderness of this psychological condition to bring her to a safe confrontation with the event and resolve it in a natural and comfortable fashion. This may involve movement exercises, storytelling or revisiting the original trauma in a structured, safe setting. Men, women and children are all susceptible to traumatic events with varied capacities to understand and work through the process of healing. The culmination of therapy is the release of the physical and mental symptoms of trauma and the satisfactory resolution of the original event. As Doctor Levine discovered originally, animals normally respond almost automatically to stress with various physical movements and actions. Recovery does not require complex intellectual achievements but is rooted in body movement primarily, thus, “somatic”. With the combination of a deep understanding of the mind-body relationship and patient and kind guidance, Eastside Center for Family therapists employing Somatic Experiencing can help you to overcome the ill effects of trauma at any stage in life.

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Everybody does it.  All of us have times when we do something like drinking an extra glass of wine to take the edge off, eat a sleeve of Oreos while watching Netflix, work crazy hours for days in a row, obsess over a hobby.  Numbing out is so common place is it not always noticed as such, in fact many people celebrate overdoing it citing reasons they deserve to indulge.  I am not talking about addiction but a kind of low level and periodic overdoing it that serves as a bridge from here to there, a place of less stressed-ness.

Numbing generally means we are avoiding feeling overwhelmed, inadequate or lonely.  Numbing delays a real and long term solution.   Another problem with overindulging is that numbing the negative feelings means you are also numbing the good feelings.  The good feelings are the goodies we need to keep us going and are the reason for all the efforts we make.

Alone-ness is the feeling we have when we frenetically clean the house and keep ourselves insulated painfully angry that no one appreciates all the efforts we take to care.  To start to feel better and restore balance means facing what is eating us, not such an easy task to do.  What is more challenging is changing our thinking that starts a shift in behavior.

Start small.  Changing one daily routine can be all the difference we need to start the domino effect.  Change is something that is helped by the support of those around us.  When we change one thing at a time rather than a multitude of habits it becomes easier to sustain change.  Take time to feel, write about it, talk it out and plan for some time alone to be still and notice what is there during the pause.

Laura J. Halford, CDP, LMHC

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Of the Seven Deadly Sins, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come, to savor the last toothsome morsel of both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back—in so many ways it is a feast fit for a king. The chief drawback is that what you are wolfing down is yourself. The skeleton at the feast is you.
(Frederick Buechner, 1926 – )

Laura J. Halford

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