Our approach to therapy is one of unconditional positive regard for the person seeking help. We strive to be objective and nonjudgmental to encourage self disclosure and create an atmosphere where self examination can occur that encourages curiosity and natural exploration. Analyzing and discussing a person’s ideas and feedback brings clarity to ambiguous or unclear ideas. Helping a person reflect on their own reactions and thoughts enables better understanding of a problem and what needs to change. Understanding the role of early family influences plays a significant role for many people in uncovering the reasons behind beliefs and behaviors. When a belief is brought to the conscious level, an opportunity emerges to decide if it is still useful or relevant.
A major stumbling block for people is that they don’t always know what they want or why they believe in certain things. Helping a person clarify their beliefs and perceptions enables people to untangle problems and develop a clear focus, which leads to wellness. The value of therapist feedback is empowering because it gives a person a way to identify his or her own ideas and develop a plan to change. We avoid confrontation and heavy-handed influence in order for the person receiving help to feel what they want for themselves and not adjust to or follow the therapist’s imperative.
If you are dealing with issues such as mental health symptoms, relationship problems or addiction then relief is important. It is nearly impossible to experience long term success beyond quick relief without addressing important changes in habits. We approach the change process by being reflective about things you have tried while offering new ideas that could bring about a fundamental shift in focus and intention. Mindfulness, positive affirmations, increasing self control, strengthening one’s desire to change, developing a plan for the future and feeling understood by the therapist increases willingness to try new things. When a person becomes willing to change they move on to trusting and receiving health and wellness in their lives.
Her reply, "I am not sure- it is the way my mother always did it, so I thought that is the way it is supposed to be done." Later that evening when she was talking to her mother she asked her why she cut off the end of the ham before cooking it, and her mother replied, "I’m not really sure but that is the way my mother cooked it."
A few weeks later the young mom went to visit her grandmother and asked her, "Grandma, when you cook a ham why do you cut off the ends of it?" Her grandmother replied, "Well dear, I cut the ends off so the ham would fit into my baking pan."